The title says it all and it is a day that I have not looked forward to. Many will feel that the way I'm going to handle it is wrong, but if anybody has watched "My Wife and Kids" understand that a "Michael Kyle Signature Moment" sometimes has the desired effect and sometimes blows up in his face. I just hope that the results that follow are ones that are acceptable.
There has been plenty of boys that like my oldest daughter, but she has never reciprocated the same feelings...or at least never strongly enough to admit it. This week, that story has changed. I have several feelings involved with this situation. Many will say that we have to "trust her" and believe that "she will do the right thing" since she is a bright girl.
The one thing that I hate to put out there about my oldest daughter is that she is EXTREMELY SMART, but sometimes does not hold what will protect her, COMMON SENSE. From what I am told is that this boy is already scared of me, but unlike the others, it has not been enough to scare him away from my daughter. There are several tracks that I can take that I have considered: a.) ramp up the fear factor to change his mind about wanting to date my daughter, b.) ignore him and hope him goes away, or 3) continue my communication with my daughter AND the boy.
Now I REALLY like choice "a" since it is fun for me, and my best friend has agreed that him and I will conduct the scene from Bad Boys II (since he has a very pretty daughter too and he is much taller than me). I enjoy the look for a young male that is concerned that I am going to "do something to them" because they like one of my girls. I remember what I was like at 13, 14, 15 and 16. I recall the "tricks" I did to get other people to do what I wanted them to do, so my mindset is that is what EVERY little boy is trying to do. Not exactly the right way to view life, but it has worked for me, so far.
Choice "b" is probably my least favorite option, since it does not allow me to get involved at all, and anybody that knows me (or has read my blogs or Facebook posts), know that I LIKE to be involved in my girls activities/life. I am not the type of person that sticks his head on the sand or plays dead, and hopes that "bad things" go away. I'd prefer to be one of the reasons why the good takes place.
Choice "3" (yes I know that I said a, b, 3) is probably what I will look towards doing (sprinkled with a touch of "a"). My daughter and I have a good mode of communication, but it can always be better. She converses more with my wife, which is the way it should be, but I would always want to have more. The part I have never done is talk with the boy as well. That is something that I have never done before, obviously, but I've NEVER met a girl's parent (or father) early in the relationship. I never had a need to, since the things I had on my mind about "Daddy's Little Girl" did not include him.
My girls have a couple of examples of SMART and BEAUTIFUL young ladies that have made a DUMB choice that has and will alter the rest of their lives. I believe that these girls are strong enough and have plenty of family support to make it, but not without more trouble than they would have had, if they had not made that choice. I do not like to say "mistake" since I feel that children are a blessing, a type of blessing that some females do not deserve. But I've slipped from my point here, I do not want my daughter to struggle more than she has to with an additional responsibility.
So with a delicate touch of fatherly communication and little boy intimidation, I feel that my girls will be fine, starting with my oldest. How she interacts from here on out, along with how my wife and I interact with her, will have an immense impact on her two younger sisters. This is why I get so scared of making mistakes, but sticking to my guns on what I feel is the right thing, is my only way about doing things.
So, what do you think?!