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To "Love My Daughters the Same" or "Treat My Daughters Equally"

To "Love My Daughters the Same" or "Treat My Daughters Equally"

Having three daughters I receive flack for what I believe is the difference between two sayings, “I love my daughters the same” and “I treat my daughters equally” which I do not believe are fully true. Before you blow me up with negative comments, hear me out.

I believe each of my daughters are special in their own way, with unique skills and advantages, as well as faults. For example, my oldest is focused with her schoolwork and even though plays softball, is not distracted (so far) with unimportant situations; my middle daughter (right now) is slightly struggling with schoolwork and I’m at a crossroads between using similar tactics that worked with my oldest at this point in her schooling, or taking the school’s advise of changing tactics that they believe will work. Based on this, I HAVE to treat them differently, in order to achieve the desired results of making them fully prepared of functioning in the world that they are going to go into, without having to depend on anyone, but welcoming anyone they come across. This is the part that gets me into trouble, loving my daughters……I love all three of my girls to death, and would give anything for them. If it stopped there, then I love them equally, but it DOESN’T just stop there. I love the way my youngest daughter dances, my oldest, not so much (LOL). I love the way my middle daughter plays softball, my oldest, not so much. I love the way my oldest daughter performs in school, my middle daughter, not so much.

This is why I LOVE my daughters differently. I tend to say (not that often recently) that my middle daughter is my favorite. Again, hear me out before you jump on me. The ONLY reason why I say that she is my favorite, is because she reminds me the most of myself. Her attitude, personality, sense of humor, and energy is either me now or me at that point of my life. I wished I were as smart as my oldest daughter is when I was her age. I wished I were as talented as my youngest is at her age. I wished I was as happy as my middle daughter is when I was her age.

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With all that said, I hope to do what is best for my girls, so that at the end of the day, they can function at a high rate, take care of my wife and I in our old age, to not HAVE to depend on anybody, but know that they can depend on each other. I welcome, encourage, and DESIRE comments, critiques, or for you to share a story of your own. 

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